Today is National Honesty Day, so it is time to fess up. Ever bent the truth on your dating profile? Made out you are a little richer, better travelled and a touch more debonair than you actually are? Said you love the theatre, fine dining and a nice glass of red, when you’d really prefer a scotch egg and a shandy in front of the TV? My buddies over at MySingleFriend think dating should be all about being true to yourself, because at the end of the day you want to be with someone who loves you for you.
In the spirit of honesty, MySingleFriend.com has put together a few dating clichés we’ve all been guilty to peddling and what they actually mean. Fakers gonna fake, but its time to get REAL.
I’m a real travel junkie – When I was 18 I went on a gap yeaaah, and despite the fact that since then the furthest I’ve ventured is the Costa Del Sol, I still post pictures of me with doped up tigers on my profile.
I’m easy going – Variations on this are ‘I’m laid back’ or ‘I’m down to earth’. True meaning? I am indecisive, never make plans and rarely get out of bed before midday at the weekend.
I enjoy nights in and nights out – Great to see that you are a balanced human and have such ‘varied’ interests that span to staying in AND going out. But it’s hardly original. No one’s saying you can’t enjoy these things, but EVERYONE does. Find a way to package and explain that in a creative, engaging way. Nobody wants to date a cliché.
Looking for my partner in crime – Before we depart on this illegal odyssey perhaps we should figure out what kind of crime we will be getting our kicks to. A bit of cheeky fraud? Or perhaps breaking and entering is your date of choice. Come on peeps, let’s ditch this one from our dating dictionary.
I’m so bubbly and up for a laugh – Read: annoying
I love laughing – Who doesn’t love to laugh? We all do. Is there someone who loves to cry? We would love to read an online dating profile that states, “Hi, I’m Janet and I love to cry. If you love to cry as well, please reach out so we can cry together.’’ Saying you love to laugh is like saying you love oxygen. Do you also think puppies are cute? We should stop announcing it as if it makes us unique and be a bit more imaginative.
Work hard but play harder – Sometimes I go to the pub on a weeknight. Same problem as “partner in crime.” You’re clearly not working hard at coming up with your own words to describe yourself. If by ‘work hard’ you mean you’re ambitious and focused on your career, that’s admirable. If by ‘play hard’ you mean you have many active hobbies, are into fitness or sports or are adventuresome, that’s also very attractive. Can’t you ‘write hard’ and put a little effort into your profile?
I’m searching for my soul mate – I am your future stalker. If you reject me, I will hound you to the end of the earth… (OK, maybe it doesn’t mean this. But it does hint at emotional neediness.) We are all looking for a good match, and that person who makes you laugh and lights your fire, but in the 21st century it sounds a little naive to be talking of soul mates.
I’m a little bit crazy – People who need to describe themselves as crazy, zany, or any of the above are usually none of those things. Show people that you are fun by talking about your interests and what makes you tick. Simply describing yourself as crazy just makes you seem the opposite.
I’m looking for my knight in shining armour – How did we get to the Middle Ages all of a sudden? You might as well just say: “I’m living in a fantasy world.” And a pretty clichéd fantasy world at that.
I’m a nice guy – Well, good to know you aren’t a self-confessed murderer, but it’s not the most exciting prospect. Of course people want to date people who are friendly and good-natured, but surely it’s not the most interesting thing about you?
Sarah Beeny, founder of MySingleFriend.com and TV personality commented:
“National Honesty Day is the perfect excuse to get real with your dating profile. Using tired, dating clichés are not going to make your profile and you stand out, and ultimately could hamper your love life. Your dating profile is a vehicle for showing what makes you different, why someone should choose you compared with the thousands of other people available. So dump the clichés and be honest. Show people what makes you special and you are much more likely to find someone who you can really click with.”
So there you have it honesty is the way forward – and the best way to get yourself a date, sounds good to me!