Why I Think Adam Johnson is a Stupid Young Man *Not* a Sexual Predator

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There is a fair bit in the news, at the moment, about Sunderland footballer, Adam Johnson, and his inappropriate relationship with a 15-year-old-girl. The 28-year-old is in court over having kissed the girl, whom he met online, and is the latest man in the public eye to be accused of grooming a minor.

Johnson has admitted to kissing the ‘schoolgirl’ but denies more serious sexual activity with her and claims to have had no intention of going any further than he did with the girl.

An icky, icky business indeed.

And let’s make it clear, his behaviour was inappropriate – deeply so, not least of all because his girlfriend was moments away from giving birth.

Not surprisingly, he is being hung, drawn and quartered by the media – shamed and vilified by Twitter.

But, despite recognising the law is in place for a reason and underage is underage, regardless of how near to the age of consent the girl is,  the ‘vicitm’ in this situation doesn’t seem to me to be entirely blameless either. Sure, in the eyes of the law she’s a minor, but she was also the one to approach Johnson in the first place. She badgered him for signed shirts on more than one occasion (not a crime, but certainly a direct way of making contact) and friend requested him on Facebook.

In short, she did the chasing.

Of course, as ‘the adult’, he should have been wise enough to back off,  but could his weakness at being pursued by an attractive young woman really be interpreted as him being a pedophile?

I remember being fifteen and dating men older than myself (quite significantly), perhaps back then it didn’t carry the stigma it does now – or there wasn’t the social media hysteria surrounding the subject – but at fifteen, I’d have passed for an adult both in the way I looked, and how to put it, my determination, as did most of my friends. I wouldn’t have dreamt of accusing the men who, ahem, succumbed to my charms,  as being sexual predators or pedophiles - because, on paper, yes, the relationships were illegal and perhaps they should have known better, regardless of who did the instigating – but the reality was, we fancied *each other* and, it was consenting.

The men I dated, should have found the strength to say no and were, indeed, breaking the law – but I can vouch for the fact that sometimes life, and relationships, aren’t that cut and dry.

If his accuser felt violated and harassed, why did she pursue Johnson (amongst a number of other celebrity footballers)? My guess is, she liked the attention and quite fancied him – and knew exactly what she was doing.

It was after other pupils at her school began talking about her on Facebook that she became the ‘victim’, deciding to shift the encounter from mutual to threatening.

So, do I think Adam Johnson is entirely blameless? No. But I certainly don’t think he’s a pedophile – a stupid young man maybe, but not a sexual predator who needs to go on a register.

And as for his ‘victim’ –  young girls who pursue celebrity footballers should think more carefully about consequences and the fact that, when you want to act like an adult, you shouldn’t be surprised when you are treated like one too.

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2 Comments on “Why I Think Adam Johnson is a Stupid Young Man *Not* a Sexual Predator”

  1. Briana

    This is the most disgusting article I’ve ever read. Young girls are allowed to have crushes, given access to flirt by social media, but that does not make them any less young girls who are cannot be accountable when older men who understand their actions far better do something illegal. How can you argue to treat this man like a child and this child like an adult? She’s not some evil temptress with too much allure and flattery for a professional footballer to handle, I’m sure he meets adult women who match that bill, but she does not because she is a child. This situation is never going to stop haunting her because people are violating the law and spreading her name and that does not help the situation but isn’t what makes her a victim, her acknowledgement she’s a victim doesn’t change the fact she was from the beginning because this is illegal and hes an adult who, I don’t carre how stupid, knew better. And the meeting and talking may have been consensual but you’re missing the part where it shouldn’t have been. If he went as far as to cross the line of talking to and kissing this girl he would’ve had sex with her eventually. There’s not a doubt in my mind. I don’t care what you did as a young woman, I’m glad you came out not feeling a victim from “dating” older men but that doesn’t make you not considered by law a victim of a crime. I had my own relationship with an adult man as an underage teenager, and I didn’t feel like a victim. I don’t still. But I legally was and none of it was even vaguely okay. And despite that? My circumstance is not everyones and I was older than this girl at the time and neither you nor I knows what could’ve resulted from this, or how this young girl feels after the fact. It’s a thrill when you get attention, but a grown man giving a teenaged girl attention she’s seeking at a level that could’ve very quickly escalated to sexual could have put her in danger or put her in a situation she didn’t know how to say no to. He’s not the one who would have had trouble saying no. I’m sure as someone so notable he gets a lot of attention, and I’m sure he knows how to say no by now. A teenage girl being asked to do anything by a man over ten years older who she admired and knows she’s “special” for getting attention from? Saying no for her is a lot harder, a lot less cut and dry, and lot less practiced, a lot less safe even. If every man in the public eye caved to the attention of a underage girls persuing him on social media and flirting in person then the world would be a very, very messed up place.

    And those girls? They’d be victims too.

  2. J smith

    Wonder if ol Stacey is going to stick by him now:
    The prosecutor read out some of their 834 WhatsApp messages – including an exchange on New Year’s Eve in 2014 in court.

    The girl sent the footballer a friends request on Facebook on December 30th and they exchanged telephone numbers, the jury heard.

    Adam Johnson (AJ): “Are you in the last year of school?”

    Schoolgirl (SG): “Year 10…will you still send me a signed shirt”

    AJ: “Yeh, I will send you one or sign yours. Whatever you prefer”

    SG: “Both if you can”

    AJ: “Yeh, I can do. Do you want me to sign yours at the game or meet up? Whatever you prefer”

    SG: “I don’t mind. Good luck with the city match”

    When discussing New Year’s Eve plans on December 31 last year, the teenager told him she was going to a family party, the court heard.

    AJ: “Where do you go out to?”

    SG: “I’m not old enough to go out”

    AJ: “Haha but yeh you look old enough. When you 16?”

    SG: “People say that all the time. No-one believes me when I say I’m 15″

    She adds that she would be 16 in November.

    AJ: “Ages then. LOL”

    The court heard the pair first met up on January 17th, when he handed her a signed shirt.

    SG: “Thank you”

    AJ: “You owe me”

    AJ: “I thought I would have got a thank you kiss for the shirt”

    AJ: “I will get this thank you, it had better be worth it”

    SG: “Ha ha it will be”

    AJ: “Confident aren’t you? Am I only getting a kiss?”

    SG: “Depends on what else you’re after”

    AJ: “I dunno, it depends what you are up for.. a little bit more than a kiss”

    SG: “Like?”

    AJ: “A bit of feeling. Just see. No pressure. Lol”

    AJ: “Keep deleting our convos”

    They next meet on January 30th when the sexual activity allegedly took place in the car park behind a Chinese takeaway. Afterwards they exchange more messages.

    AJ: “Wasn’t bad, was it?”

    AJ: “Think we better go in the back next time.”

    AJ: “It was class. Just wanted to get your jeans off”

    SG: “Next time haha”

    AJ: “I will last 10 seconds tho lol”

    The prosecution said just 30 seconds earlier he received a picture from girlfriend Stacey Flounders of their new baby daughter and replied: “She looks class.”

    The court heard how Johnson messaged the girl at 5.22pm on January 30th:

    AJ: “I’m here now”

    Then 20 minutes later he received a message from Stacey, his girlfriend, saying: “Hey, I’m going to try and not be negative with you and believe you more.

    She was a starry eyed teenager who idolised him, many teenage girls send friend requests to footballers, rock stars etc. He then went on to manipulate her with the intention of persuading her to engage in sexual activity. He is a criminal, she is innocent and this blog is victim blaming.

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