When it comes to dating, I’ll be the first to admit I’ve rather a penchant for the older man – finding experience and the odd grey hair quite appealing. However, I do have plenty of friends who can’t think of anything worse than a man a few years off a pipe and slippers and are instinctively drawn to fellas much younger than themselves.
One thing is for sure, there are no hard and fast rules and everyone has their preferences. It’s with this in mind that I’m excited to introduce lifestyle writer, Mark Greene, to the blog, to give us a man’s point of view on what really is the difference between older and younger men …
There is a lot of talk out there about the difference between boys and men, with people having varying opinions on what constitutes the two. While many people out there will try to convince you that age is but a number, experience has taught me that this is simply not true.
Sure you get older guys with the emotional maturity of a 12-year-old and those in their twenties who just seem to have it all together; but the fundamental difference in experiences, success and wants are what essentially separate these age groups.
For many women, the difference between dating a man in his 20’s and a man in his 40’s is adequately displayed in the dating scene.
What men want and what boys want
One of the first noticeable differences between men in their 40′s and those in their 20’s comes in the forms of actually knowing what they want. While a spritely energetic young man with a desire to party every night while indulging women in intimate midnight conversations is a romantic notion, most men around this age find it difficult to take life seriously; while moving a few decades ahead of the YOLO generation exhibits men who are relaxed, know what they want and would prefer to settle for a loving relationship rather than a tumultuous fling.
Experience in the sack
Sure, when you were in your 20’s you had the energy and libido to satisfy different women every night but your overly curious and fumbling body might still not know its way around the bed sheets.
By the time you are in your 40’s you should already have satiated your unquenchable desire to score, and in doing so have likely picked up a fantastic collection of tricks to keep women satisfied in bed. This mixture of being able to enter into a sexual encounter naturally while being able to perform confidently makes you a greater catch than you’d think.
Security vs Adventure
Though perhaps the most noticeable difference between men in their 20’s and those in their 40’s regards the security that they can offer. While a young man may be enticing because of his fresh face, ripped muscles and bright-eyed wonder, an older one has likely given up all of those temporary and superficial qualities to concentrate on what really matters, security.
Women have a tendency to find value in a man who can offer her a comfortable life, put food on the table and move from success to success. Since there is some truth to the saying that youth is wasted on the youthful, most men are only likely to be able to provide these comforts once their career is on the rise, and that usually only happens after your 30’s.
There is undoubtedly a difference in most cases when age is a concern in the dating world. If you are worried that you have missed your most marketable years, fear not; in the world of men, years will age you like a fine wine. You have become more refined, flavoursome and satisfying, while being able to offer more than just your good looks and youthful sense of adventure.
Mark Greene is a lifestyle professional writer and digital nomad with a keen interest in men’s mental and physical health, life hacks, grooming, men’s fashion, sex, dating, career and overall day-to-day solutions for men. The world, according to him, is what you make of it. So go out there and make it amazing.