Are feminists just a bunch of angry bitches?

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imagesSometimes I wonder about equality. It’s something I want and whole-heartedly support, yet can’t help but feel that on occasion, women’s, sometimes aggressive, mission to square up to men actually does little to help the cause.

Take a recent conversation I had. A member of a woman’s business group disagreeing with ‘men only’ clubs. Granted the woman’s club was business based and the man’s was within a social context but am I missing something?

Surely it all boils down to exclusion, in one form or another.

The general feedback on Twitter was that women needed a place to thrive without being ‘hampered by men’ – to encourage each other without feeling intimidated by them in the workplace and that I was both ignorant and anti-feminist to not recognise that.

Oh, so that’s how feminism works.

Slam me down for having an opinion, I get it now.

You see, here’s the thing. I have no issue with women only groups – despite the fact I can’t help but feel that by describing them as a place women can get together without being hampered by men, not only emphasises the divide between men and women, but does the mission for absolute equality an injustice – suggesting that women can’t flourish surrounded by men and therefore need to segregate themselves in order to achieve.

My issue is not with the groups themselves, but more that I fail to understand how women expect to be taken seriously as equals when it’s one rule for us and another for them.

You want your women’s groups take em’ – but don’t then complain when your boyfriend wants to spend time with men, socially or otherwise, and you are forbidden to be there (because let’s be clear, women’s groups forbid men to attend)

Equality isn’t just about women being equal to men, it’s about men being equal to women too – if we stop acting like the hard done-by sex maybe it will go towards us, supposedly, being treated like it too.

Nor is it about slagging off men for hampering you, dominating situations and ‘stealing all the top jobs’. You want a top job? Stop whining about how unfair life is to a load of women and go out and get it amongst a load of men.

My second axe to grind with all the feminists who automatically attack women who dare to question their views is this.

If you want people to see you as more than an angry feminist can we please stop putting each othe down when our views don’t always meet, let’s start respecting that everyone is allowed a point of view.
Mens ‘clubs’ don’t bother me. That doesn’t make me anti-feminist, it makes me a person with an opinion, and to suggest otherwise is not only incorrect but also makes women look like a bunch of accusing, angry, men and woman-who-don’t-agree-with-them hating bitches.

There is no copy and paste cut out of what a feminist should look like.

Being a feminist isn’t about knocking people down who have a different opinion to you, calling them foolish and ignorant – it’s about having your opinion and respecting others.

And going for that job you want – regardless of it being in a male-dominated environment, instead of spending your time bitching and moaning to your girlfriends (in a group men aren’t allowed to attend) about what arseholes they all are.

katyAre feminists just a bunch of angry bitches?

2 Comments on “Are feminists just a bunch of angry bitches?”

  1. JJ

    I think, as with most things, it’s extremists making the group look bad. I consider myself a feminist in that I consider us all worthy of equal respect – however, I find that people who label themselves with a huge feminist tag are usually completely over the top and make no sense, as what they’re asking for is often special rules/reverse bias rather than genuine equality.

    1. katy

      absolutely agree! and when women start pulling other women down for a difference in opinion it drives me bonkers!!

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